This note is for everyone who needs it. 

When I am no longer able to do all the things, please remember, I still need and love to have all the things done.

I like to keep my finger nails at mid length, nothing too long.  My toe nails,  I like them quite short, not to the quick but just so a little of the white part shows. My favorite colour is pinkish red, please paint my toenails.

If you can, bathe my feet regularly;. Please use a nail brush and that scrubby thing on the bottoms, I hate rough feet. Thank you. Lots of cream too! 

Please put cream on my hands and body everyday.  My skin is soft and moisturized and  I’d like to keep it that way, it feels good.

Please don’t forget my favorite face cream and that I use Dove soap on my face, the white bar.  I don’t want to age before my time. Lol. I’ve been doing great for almost 55 yrs, I’ll keep it up as long as I can, but when I can no longer care for my skin, please help me.

I’m not big on baths, but I know there may come a time as this progresses that showers will become very uncomfortable for me.  If you bathe me in a bath, please don’t add bubbles.

I love funky clothing. Not super tight and certainly not super loose, comfy stuff.  Give me a splash of colour and tie my hair up.  Please don’t add bows and butterflies, I don’t want to look like a doll.

Let me relax in sweats.  Fluffy stuff that is soft.  Dress me up nice when you take me on an adventure and please make sure my hair is clean and I have , if you can do it, a light shade of pink on my lips.

Please make sure my bed is worthy of a good sleep. I want you to try it for a night, if you are not comfy, I won’t be either. Make good choices for me please.

If I can still paint and hold a brush, please let me remain creative.  Fill my room with flowers and lovely pictures of you and my grandchildren.

Tell me stories of our life, even if you don’t think I’m listening, tell me them anyway, I’ll still be in here, somewhere.

Shave my legs and my underarms.  It may be a chore, but please try. I’m sure we can figure it out.

If there is a place I can put my bare feet outside in the grass or in fresh soil, please let me.  I will need to be grounded by mother earth, it will keep me calm.

Play music. Always.  Don’t put headphones on me.  Let me breathe in the melodies as they dance in the air.  Just leave it soft and in the background, use all the great equipment I have. Let me listen endlessly.

If there is someone who needs to help you take care of me, please make sure you remember that first impressions do mean alot. Your gut is your second brain, listen to it and don’t choose anyone in haste.

I may not be able to communicate the same as I do now, remain intuitive. Read my body language. It may become more important than any words could ever say.

I am terrified to be in a home.  We have talked about my choices and I want you to trust in them.

ALWAYS choose your children first if ever I become defiant.  No exceptions. Then remember my choices once again.

In my living years, I do not want you to have regrets or questions. Let’s talk.  I am here and present, I want your heart and mine to forever remain free of pain, just as it is now.

I will Love you forever.  Mumma xo

My daughter and I have talked about most everything.  Our hearts are free and we move through this together. She is amazing. I haved loved  her since before she was born.

My son in law is a powerful force in our small family. He is kind and generous, he has a loving heart and is humble. He is a great man. I love him very much.

My mother is the most wonderful person I know. She has given knowledge, strength, love and great foresight.  I am who I am because of her. I love you Mumma. Thank you.

My grandbabies, they are my world.

Please talk with your families.  Talk to your friends. Let as many people as you can know your wishes.  Your wishes are more than end of life directives. 

I wish everyone the courage to be able to say all the things.

‘Till the next bloggy thing!  Stay well my friends. Xo. Jan

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